It’s time for another installment of QLQB Reads! Today, I’m talking about Jen Sincero‘s book, You Are a Badass. It’s one of my favorites, and it is especially great as an audiobook, since Jen reads it herself! She’s funny and she is REAL. This book is the most no-nonsense self development book out there. Besides, her name is Jen. She’s gotta be awesome. See, video:
This book is for you if: you think personal development books are dumb, but you totally need a little kick in the butt. Pep talks are your jam, or you love Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. You like to laugh. Your life is in a little bit of a rut and you are totally sick of it. You want to listen to your book of choice (I’ll say it again, this audiobook is the greatest) — I even listened to it for the entirety of a half marathon once.
Top three takeaways:
- Figuring out who you are and what you want is going to be tough, but it’s so important. We are constantly bombarded by what we “should” be or have or do. We have subconcious beliefs that are deeply entwined, especially our beliefs about money and success. It’s important to recognize that we’ve been influenced by people, past events, and experiences, and that in order to get exactly what we want, we have to a) figure out what that is for ourselves, b) surround ourselves with people who will support us, and c) get rid of our limiting beliefs that we can’t have exactly what we want.
- Gratitude is a game changer. Sincero suggests writing down ten things at the end of each day that you’re grateful for. Gratitude keeps your thoughts positive, which allows you to operate at your highest possible frequency. Viewing our lives through a lens of gratitude also helps us to put negative occurrences into perspective — even on the worst days, there is always, always something to be grateful for.
- Believe that we live in a world of limitless possibilities. Jen makes a great point — what do you have to lose? Assuming that everything you want is there for the taking, and that it’s totally within your control to go out there, kick butt, and take it empowers you to go after what you want. It enables you to take risks, fail sometimes, and get back up and go get it because you truly believe that nothing is impossible.
Three favorite quotes (sorry, this time there are four):
- “You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for whether people freak out about it.”
- “You are loved. Massively. Ferociously. Unconditionally. The Universe is totally freaking out about how awesome you are. It’s got you wrapped in a warm gorilla hug of adoration. It wants to give you everything you desire. It wants you to be happy. It wants you to see what it sees in you.”
- “Even though they’re often doing it out of love and concern, having others smear their fear and worry all over you is the last thing you need when you’re strengthening your superhero muscles to step out and take some risks, so I highly recommend keeping your mouth shut around people who are gonna bring you down. Instead, seek out those who are already totally kicking butt (or who are lifiting up their foot to do so), or people who you know will be supportive, and confide in them. Because you’ll have your own internal freak show to deal with as you try to overcome the objections from your own BS.”
- “It never ceases to amaze me the precious time we spend chasing the squirrels around our brains, playing out our dramas, worrying about unwanted facial hair, seeking adoration, justifying our actions, complaining about slow Internet connections, dissecting the lives of idiots, when we are sitting in the middle of a full-blown miracle that is happening right here, right now. We’re on a planet that somehow knows how to rotate on its axis and follow a defined path while it hurtles through space! Our hearts beat! We can see! We have love, laughter, language, living rooms, computers, compassion, cars, fire, fingernails, flowers, music, medicine, mountains, muffins!”
How I’ve adopted You Are a Badass into my life: I listen to this book whenever I need a pep talk. It makes me laugh, and it makes me laugh at myself, especially when I’m totallyfreakingout. After reading it the first time, I started a gratitude journal. It also ties in really well with The Miracle Morning’s call to visualize, since Jen advocates visualizing exactly what you want and believing that it can be yours.
Should you read it? Yes. Even better, you should listen to it. The audiobook is a great investment, because you can use it as a pick me up whenever you need a good laugh or a little reminder that you are unstoppable.